Grief is a deep sorrow usually caused by loss. It is a trouble or vexation and no matter how hard we try to forget, it’s a lament that will be with us forever. One day of grief feels like one year and one night of grief feels like eternity; however, God and time makes it easier to deal with your grief. Once we make the decision to began the healing process God will meet us halfway. He will begin to feel the empty place in our hearts that was desiganted for our loved one with his love and he will begin to mend the broken pieces and bind them together. He’ll knit them up so that the pain is not as extreme as it once was but there will always be a scar under the knitting to remind us of what happened.
As I think of grief, I think of a scar my husband has on his wrist. He has told me the story of that scar a thousand times I’m sure. When he was a young boy around 14 years old, he and a couple of friends were horseplaying in the gym at school. Some how my husband suffered a gash in his wrist as a result of it. The wound bled out fiercely. The gash was so deep he had to have stitches in order for the skin to mend back together. I’m not sure what he cut his wrist on in a school gymnasium but he did and now as an adult everytime he look at his wrist he’s reminded of the physical pain he felt when he was 14 years old.
I truly believe it’s the same with grief. Although we physically can not see the knitting God is placing on our hearts, we can feel them. And we’ll always remember the emotional pain we felt losing someone we really loved. The grief scar will reappear on birthdays, holidays, anniversaries and other special occassions. The grief scar will reappear when we look at their picture or when we hear one of their favorite songs on the radio. Although healed grief is a scar that will never go away.